Grafting (weaving - U.S., Kitchener Stitch) The sewing together of knitted pieces using a method that mimics knitting and is worked on two sets of raw stitches - i.e. with no casting on or off. I think grafting is one of the most difficult things to do in lace knitting and it seems that a lot of knitters share my feelings, so here are a few suggestions in addition to what's given in the book, that I hope will help:

Even as few as 20 stitches will easily take over an hour of concentrated attention to do with no distractions - set aside enough time when you are 'at your best' for this. For me that's mid morning on a school day, and I shut the cat out of the room to boot! Read up as much as you can in knitting manuals about it. Knit yourself two coloured swatches and graft them together with white yarn so you can see the principles.

Edgings:
With edging joins, consider opting for a neat sewn seam instead. This is what many Shetland lace knitters did and do, and so long as you make it as stretchy as the rest of your knitting by sewing loosely and evenly, you should feel it a job well done. If time is short, do this and thread in the long remaining yarn loosely so you can unsew and graft the join properly at a later date, when you have more time and experience. This works.

Strictly speaking, grafting joins together beginning and ending sets of stitches. I find it acceptable and much easier to use the Knitting Cast On for the beginning set and then you've only got the end set to concern yourself about. Keep these on the needle and graft them from it.